Friday, May 28, 2010

Tolerance (Weekend Whine)


Here's the setup and the scenario. You own a home in a subdivision. You have a huge back deck with a sound system and on rare occasions, you enjoy entertaining guests. Typically alcoholic beverages are served and while the music is playing and food is cooking on the grill, conversation is lively and can sometimes lead to controversial subjects that might make certain guests louder than normal in trying to get their point across. I enjoy that. That's summertime in the Indiana Hamptons, without the Hamptons. We pretend we're somebodies when we know we're nobodies, but amidst the depth of discussion, we're lively and animated.

Occasionally, a swear word slips out. Sh(It) happens. Bullsh(It) even happens when we discuss really controversial subjects, like the size of my head, or the relevance of Larry, Curly and Mo as they relate to our current day existence. It's family, and it can get heated at times, but the swear words are always spoken with love and respect.

The problem? The neighbors. God help me if they read my blog, but I'm totally p(isse)'d off that they'd have the gall to approach us and ask us to "tame it down." I've lived many places and have had many neighbors and have never been approached in this manner. Heck, if this were late night high jinx, I'd understand, but we're talking early evening here folks, and on a Saturday to boot.

I guess more than anything, my feelings were hurt. I practice tolerance and have accepted and put up with many neighborly transgressions through the years. Live and let live, I say. Love thy neighbor's potty mouth as thy own. It's an occasional thing, so live with it. Am I wrong?

Wishing you all a fantastic Memorial Day weekend and may your parties and cookouts be loud, boisterous and filled with fun.

14 comments:

Linda said...

You have a good weekend too, Mags! Dammit!

All Our Fingers in the Pie said...

They should be so lucky to have a neighbour like you. I can tell you! I have had bad neighbours ... drugs, police, weapons, music into the wee hours, yelling, screaming. They are over-reacting more than a tad. But what do you do? I have no idea. Just remember, what goes around, comes around. It will be their turn one of these days, guaranteed.

Pam said...

Seriously?! Was it the noise or the language? Do they have really young children or something?

Lyndsey said...

We think like you do "live and let live" it's a shame when people don't know how to live so they mess with you.

But what's this about the size of your head? :D

Barbara Bakes said...

Sounds like one of my family get-togethers. They're probably just jealous of the food. Guess you'll have to give them the co-irkers treats one week.

Frieda said...

I agree with Barbara...I believe they are jealous that someone is actually having fun! You're not breaking any laws, so live it up and have a wonderful weekend~

Co Irker said...

Girl, I feel your pain. I once had a neighbor tell me not to park in front of their house. The catch? It's a public street! Their rationalization was "But, you know, it's the front of OUR house." - How do you argue with that?

Some folks have no tolerance for others. And then they compound this flaw by choosing to live in a subdivision. Go live in the country if you want complete silence. (God knows there's enough places in Indiana for this to be feasible)

I would be delighted if you were my neighbor - so go out there and have a great weekend. Have a beer for me!

P.S.
Please don't bribe them with our treats! I'm pretty sure we'd appreciate them more.

June said...

Wish we could package up all the crappy neighbors and put them in the same subdivision. We've got a couple of "winners" next door too - he's a cop that doesn't believe in following rules and she's just a b..tch. I say, party hearty Mags and to heck with them. I really wanted to use a better word than "heck" but I'm trying to cure my potty mouth LOL

Moogie said...

What the #@$%&!!!! Mags, I keep telling you that you need to move my neighborhood. It's party central all the time.

Megan said...

You are not wrong, they are way out of line. I would NEVER! To Hell with them, and enjoy yourself.

Maybe they were lonely and a little jealous of your fun!

Sherylyn said...

Seems like pretty petty behaviour under the circumstances you've described. Have these people nothing better to complain about? Guess not.

I am an extremely quiet and polite condo owner, yet the other day when I was rushing to leave my door caught the wind and slammed shut. I was halfway down the hall when the lady across from me opened her door, screamed "MUST you SLAM your door like that??" and then proceeded to slam hers so hard the whole floor shook. Weirdness. I have no idea how to deal with unreasonable behaviour like that.

Nanan said...

All I gotta say is that my Moma - may she rest in peace - was a good pre-Vatican II Catholic woman - and she said Shit is not a curse word - it is a natural body function - she would know - she was trained to be a nurse by nuns in the 40s! Tell those neighbors to relax already!!!!

Ken Myers said...

So, who, by chance, made you say all that stuff anyway!
BTW, I enjoyed the conversation probably as much as you! Nice rant.., can I join you? Maybe on the back deck?

micci orion said...

You're not wrong....
Do what you think would be tolerable and reasonable to you if the shoe was on the other foot, tone it down a small notch from there, and if you are within that limit, screw the neighbors.
You'll never make everyone happy, there will always be some who complain about everything. As long as you have not gone past those reasonable limits, what are they going to do?